Whether you’re planning for yourself or for a loved one, the funeral service is one of the most important elements of a person’s final arrangements. With the opportunity for great personalization, the memorial service of Rev. Arland Steen of Thousand Oaks, CA can truly reflect the uniqueness of the life it honors. It can:
Honor, recognize, and celebrate the life of the deceased
Allow friends and family to say their last good-byes
Provide closure after the loss of a loved one
Allow friends to console the family of the loved one
In general terms, a funeral is a gathering of family and friends after the death of a loved one that allows them the opportunity to mourn, support each other and pay tribute to the life of the deceased. It often consists of one or more of the following components:
The funeral service that is either a formal or informal ceremony
A visitation, wake, or viewing held the night before or immediately prior to the funeral service
A memorial service where a casket or urn is usually not present
The graveside service is held at the grave site just prior to burial
Unique Funeral Services
There’s no one, right way to plan a funeral service. Each funeral should be as unique and memorable as the life it honors. When planning a funeral service in advance, think about how you want to be remembered and how to make sure the service is personal.
Where should the funeral be held? At your place of worship? At the funeral home?
Who should officiate the service? Will your service adhere to the traditions of your faith or culture?
Do you want a eulogy, and who should deliver it?
Would you like an open or closed casket?
What music should be played?
What readings would you like to have read? Is there a special poem you’d like shared with the guests?
Should the décor reflect a particular hobby or interest of yours, such as fishing, gardening, or music?
Is there a particular emblem or engraving you want on your headstone or marker?
For a Truly Unique Funeral
Each funeral should be as unique and memorable as the life it honors, so I will meet with the loved ones in a group setting. After hearing narratives from the deceased’s family and friends, I will then craft a personal story. I will be able to create a meaningful way to pay tribute to the dearly departed, one that begins with compassion and shaped by the understanding that each life is truly unique.
A Sample Memorial Service
Here is an excerpt of an actual memorial service I wrote for a gentleman who was a member of my church. It will give you a glimpse of what a family meeting will result in:
Meeting with the family to learn about your loved one’s life
Crafting of a personalized life story
Officiate the memorial service
Personal and pastoral support throughout the entire process
Weekday Memorial Service $300 (Monday – Thursday)
Weekend Memorial Service $400 (Friday – Sunday)
Due to the time-sensitive nature of a Memorial Service, deposits are not possible.
Both fees include everything listed under the Celebrate a Life Memorial Service, except that long distance travel of over 90 miles RT will incur a mileage fee of the current IRS mileage rate for business.